We had a LOT of sex this month. 27 times in 30 days. We scored a 90% for those of you who are “stats people” – like my husband. Basically, we got an A for effort, consistency, and knocking this challenge out of the park.
I will be the first one to say that each week presented its own unique theme. You can read through them all one by one (Week 1, Week 2, Week 3), but the last week was truly the best. After going through the challenges and the obstacles that we overcame, I am so proud of us and honestly, I feel we are closer than ever.
I do want to give a shout out to some fun things that we will continue to use to spice things up every now and then. And don’t knock it till you try it, ya’ll! 😉
We found that diffusing this on our nightstand was key in helping us get a little more interested in one another – versus zoning out in front of Parks and Rec (although, we did that too.) It smells so good and the ambiance of the essential oil diffuser was quite lovely too!
Book a sitter!
I cannot stress this enough. If you live in an area without family or close friends, then please join a playgroup in your area on social media and ask around! Date nights are the KEY to de-stressing and reconnecting as individuals rather than co-parents. Yes, you will end up talking about your kids and probably spend half the night looking at their photos on your phone….but then you will gaze at each other and think “Wow – we are raising those beautiful beings together” and remember why you chose this person in the beginning.
PUSH PAST the exhaustion!
Give yourself and your partner some grace. Being an adult is tough. Working full-time, raising a family, having extended family difficulty, illness, natural disasters…..whatever it may be, everyone has STUFF that they are dealing with. I encourage you to push past the exhaustion and have a SPRINT SACK SESSION! It doesn’t have to be a marathon – it can be fun, quick, exciting, and satisfying! I promise you, it will be worth it on so many levels.
Bryan’s TAKE aways
I wanted to get my husbands take on all this, so I asked him about how he felt after this past month.
“We learned how to communicate on a topic that is sometimes awkward to talk about, but doing this challenge forced us to have more conversations about it. This has opened the door to overall topics in communication. It was nice to make time for each other – putting down our phones, t.v. shows, laptops; we talked and connected as adults – not just “mom and dad”. The third week was definitely the hardest because we were exhausted and we had a lot going on with work in general, but this past week we reconnected on a more intimate emotional level and it was great.”
It was interesting to see that his thoughts were exactly on par with mine.
Have you ever heard the saying “21 days to make a habit”? Well, I never truly believed that until this past month. 3 weeks in and I was ready to give up completely. I was truly kind of “over it”….but BECAUSE of this challenge, we committed to it; pushed past the rut; and gained closeness, trust, and more open communication.
One of my friends sent me a message that she and her husband are about to embark on a ROCKTOBER challenge and by that, she means ROCKING THEIR WORLD in October and I can’t tell you how proud and excited I am for them. They are just like the rest of us in that they are in survival mode for the most part. But they want MORE for their relationship. In fact, we should all WANT more for our lives and our relationships. Speaking of wanting MORE….who is joining me for the #last90days challenge?
The FUN begins tomorrow!!!